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I wasn’t sure that this was the best title for this column. My alternative choice was: “It’s Never A Good Time to Leave”. From these [...]

Some people break down life into the first half (birth until forty-five-ish) and the second half (forty-five to death). I find it more useful to [...]

I used to think that only “older” people were interested in gardening. You know, people over forty. But lately, several of my younger clients – [...]

I used to be in a SoCal gay men’s leadership group. My friends Jim and Peter started it about 20 years’ ago. The group had [...]

Have you ever had a therapist? If so, how did you decide when your work together was done? As a therapist for over twenty years’ [...]

When I lived in England, I was surprised how many times I heard people say, “Sorry”. Not “I’m sorry”, just “Sorry”. It seemed like the [...]

After being classified - for decades - as illegal and controlled substances, medical science is finally realizing the value of psychedelics like psilocybin (magic mushrooms), [...]

We have so many choices of foods, beverages and substances that we can eat, drink and consume. How do you decide what you put into [...]

In the LGBTQ community, our relationships don’t always mirror heteronormative ones. I discovered this over twenty years’ ago as I started working as a psychotherapist [...]

I had a client who was a porn producer. He didn’t particularly enjoy it, “You can’t believe how boring it is to make porn”, he [...]

Getting older (and looking it) is a terrible thing; I call it “Twink Death”. Staying young forever is what we want. Right? When we’re in [...]

Nothing brings up your unresolved issues like a meaningful relationship. It might be a romantic relationship, but it doesn’t have to be: your relationship with [...]