Not More Stuff! This Year, Give Gifts That Really Matter
Well, Christmas is over a month away and the stores are already crammed with gifts they’re pushing us to buy. Gift-giving makes retail stores happy, [...]
How to Fine-Tune Your Sex Life
When talking with my clients about their sex lives, it’s fascinating to look at the interplay of the emotions they feel and the sexual activities [...]
Why I Quit Facebook (and Other Social Media)
There are many research studies that show that the more time we spend on social media, the lower our self-esteem. Why? It appears that comparing [...]
Are You Bored?
Is your life not very stimulating? Do you have too much time on your hands and are starting to get depressed? Have you retired early [...]
Have More Fun!
Life is so serious: everyone you know has so many problems. The world is in such a bad place. What can we do? Of course, [...]
Help Me Not to Hate
Dear Michael: I pride myself on being able to talk respectfully to almost everybody. I used to be a social worker and now I’m a [...]
Five Steps to a Healthy Break Up
Unfortunately, breaking up with someone is a part of life. We usually dread it because it’s painful and it hurts. How can we make it [...]
You Are Not Your History: Don’t Let Trauma Define You
The word “trauma” is quite popular these days. We’ve all experienced some kind of “trauma”; yet, one person’s trauma is another person’s minor problem. As [...]
3 Crucial Questions about Open Relationships
Recently, I was interviewed by a freelance gay reporter from NYC about open relationships. He found me through my book, “The Gay Man’s Guide to [...]
What I told the Navy about being Gay
For Pride month 2022, I was asked by Chief Petty Officer Ronald Meija, Commander of Mine Division 12, San Diego, to speak to a group [...]
Should I have Sex with My Friends?
As a psychotherapist, I get questions about this topic from my clients, a few of whom have asked me to write a column about it. [...]
When you Need to Recharge and Renew, It’s Time for a Retreat
It’s a tough time to be alive. There’s so much crap in the world swirling around us that even the most grounded and together people [...]