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In every open (non-monogamous) relationship – legally married or not - we determine how to balance the love and sexual energy we give to our [...]

Ever since my book on open and monogamous marriage came out in 2017, I’ve had a steady stream of men and women - both queer [...]

It’s been a year since I closed my Kensington office, moved my work online and began working out of my home office. And what a [...]

More-and-more plastic surgeons want me to meet with their clients - before they have a facelift - to see if the client’s expectations are realistic. [...]

Over the past twenty-some years, I’ve heard dozens of clients say: “I absolutely hate conflict.” “Does every relationship – even a good one - have [...]

Change is hard. We want to change how we handle things, how we talk to people, how we treat ourselves. We decide: “It’s time to [...]

Celebrity/model/witty person Chrissy Teigen recently went public with her decision to quit drinking. As a psychotherapist for San Diego’s LGBTQ community, I’ve observed that the [...]

  When people are considering psychotherapy/counseling, they usually ask me “How long do you think it will take?” People who have a very specific problem [...]

PTSD is a psychological term for “post traumatic stress disorder”. I consider PTSD to be the emotions we feel after we have walked through hell [...]

Finally, as 2020 shuffles to a close, it looks like (some) things are getting better: No more Trump and his hate-mongering policies The Biden/Harris administration [...]

We’re in uncharted territory, brothers and sisters. None of us has ever lived through a pandemic before. And the news isn’t good: more and more [...]