Five Steps to a Healthy Break Up
Unfortunately, breaking up with someone is a part of life. We usually dread it because it’s painful and it hurts. How can we make it [...]
You Are Not Your History: Don’t Let Trauma Define You
The word “trauma” is quite popular these days. We’ve all experienced some kind of “trauma”; yet, one person’s trauma is another person’s minor problem. As [...]
3 Crucial Questions about Open Relationships
Recently, I was interviewed by a freelance gay reporter from NYC about open relationships. He found me through my book, “The Gay Man’s Guide to [...]
What I told the Navy about being Gay
For Pride month 2022, I was asked by Chief Petty Officer Ronald Meija, Commander of Mine Division 12, San Diego, to speak to a group [...]
Should I have Sex with My Friends?
As a psychotherapist, I get questions about this topic from my clients, a few of whom have asked me to write a column about it. [...]
When you Need to Recharge and Renew, It’s Time for a Retreat
It’s a tough time to be alive. There’s so much crap in the world swirling around us that even the most grounded and together people [...]
“Monogamy or Open Relationship?” (Five Years’ Later)
About twenty years’ ago, I started offering free workshops at the San Diego LGBTQ Center. Over the years, I’ve created/facilitated about thirty different workshops, on [...]
Feeling electronically connected but personally isolated? You need “The New Vitamin C”.
While reading several books about the global acceleration of technology, it was predicted that the highest paying jobs in the future will be those that [...]
What Exactly Are Anxiety and Depression?
As a psychotherapist, people often ask me about the difference between anxiety and depression; often they lump the two together, saying things like, “My doctor [...]
Comfortable With Uncertainty
COVID continues. Russia Invades the Ukraine. Inflation is high. Financial instability, global warming and institutional racism continue to plague us all. I’m 68 years’ old [...]
Sex, Kink and Consent
Have you ever been in an uncomfortable situation where someone tried to kiss or touch you and you didn’t want it? Have you ever kissed [...]
Smiling on the Outside; Crying on the Inside
Do you ever feel like you’re faking happiness? Is your optimism sometimes shaky? When someone tells you, “It’s all good”, do you want to smack [...]