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Over the past twenty-some years, I’ve heard dozens of clients say: “I absolutely hate conflict.” “Does every relationship – even a good one - have [...]

Change is hard. We want to change how we handle things, how we talk to people, how we treat ourselves. We decide: “It’s time to [...]

Celebrity/model/witty person Chrissy Teigen recently went public with her decision to quit drinking. As a psychotherapist for San Diego’s LGBTQ community, I’ve observed that the [...]

  When people are considering psychotherapy/counseling, they usually ask me “How long do you think it will take?” People who have a very specific problem [...]

PTSD is a psychological term for “post traumatic stress disorder”. I consider PTSD to be the emotions we feel after we have walked through hell [...]

Finally, as 2020 shuffles to a close, it looks like (some) things are getting better: No more Trump and his hate-mongering policies The Biden/Harris administration [...]

We’re in uncharted territory, brothers and sisters. None of us has ever lived through a pandemic before. And the news isn’t good: more and more [...]

I recently returned from a two-week road trip. I drove through Nevada, Idaho, Montana, Washington, Oregon and California, mostly on back roads like CA-49 and [...]

Are you feeling lonelier these days? Is the pandemic exacerbating those feelings? Luckily, the physical state of being alone has very little to do with [...]

When you’re having a meal with someone, it’s easy to say: “Please pass the salt”. You calmly ask for what you want: no big deal. [...]