By MICHAEL DALE KIMMEL
This – my first book – offers all couples an easy-to-follow, practical framework that you can use to create, adjust and structure your relationship/marriage.
Using helpful examples and first-hand quotes throughout, I offer a roadmap for couples who are considering marriage, yet have questions and concerns about monogamy and monotony.
I made sure that the book was practical and useful: throughout the book are “Questions for Discussion” to help you and your partner start conversations, using the book as a springboard.
It looks like the book has tapped a nerve: since its publication in 2017, the book has frequently been on Amazon’s List of “Best-Selling Relationship Books”.
And from the emails I’ve been getting, I am told that most of the principles discussed in the book are not unique to gay couples: heterosexual couples, bisexual couples, transgender couples, lesbian couples, and couples interested in polyamorous relationships have all written to me, letting me know that they have found the book useful in fine-tuning their relationships, whether they’re married or not.
Here’s a quote from one (heterosexual) man in a polyamorous relationship: “Dear Michael, thanks so much for your book. It has been really helpful to my wife and I as we explore an open relationship. I think you should retitle the book: “The Couples Guide to Open and Monogamous Relationships”.
Book ReviewsClick Here to Read More Book Reviews
Engaging, candid and filled with insightful practical advice, Kimmel’s “The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage” is a timely, compassionate invitation to challenge cultural norms and forge our own ways of loving.
– David Charles Manners, author of Limitless Sky
“The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage” is a valuable look in to the unique challenges that gay male marriages face. Kimmel is refreshingly frank and most importantly, he understands and navigates the nuances of male-male relationships.
– Craig Laurance Gidney, Two-Time Lambda Literary Award Finalist
For the gay man who’s married, going to be married, or in a dating relationship, Michael Dale Kimmel gives an honest, insightful, and fun look at how to make sex, love, conflict, and competition work–both in and out of bed.
– Alex Sanchez, author of Rainbow Boys
A complete guide to what gay men experience in relationships. Finally, a book on sexual relationships, just for us.
– Adam D. Blum, MFT, Founder and Director, Gay Therapy Center
Finally, an intelligent, compassionate guide to help navigate the complex waters of sexuality in gay relationships! Filled with insights, secrets, and practical tools, this groundbreaking work will help you forge a path to love and intimacy that truly works for you.
– Mark Matousek, author of Sex Death Enlightenment and When You’re Falling, Dive
“The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage” is for anyone who is wanting to bring awareness and consciousness to the choices they make in their relationships and having the marriage that they dream of and deserve. Cheers to Michael Dale Kimmel for helping all of us in the gay community better take care of each others hearts.
– Conrad Ricamora, star of “How to get away with Murder”
I actually got emotional about the suggestions Kimmel provided for giving one another time and space to process when things get heated, and apologizing through action if words don’t come as easily. I reflected on how many of my past relationships would have benefited from this simple guide for “double testosterone” conflict resolution. Being right doesn’t mean we win in a relationship. This is one of many crucial points the book illuminates. A great read.
— Darryl Stephens, author, Required Reading: How to Get Your Life for Good
Michael Dale Kimmel offers an unflinchingly honest perspective into the relatively unknown territory of the “Double Testosterone” marriage. As a relationship anthropologist of sorts, Kimmel has excavated the roots of holy matrimony, while trimming away the branches that no longer serve us, allowing the birth of a new age of partnership. A must read for any same-sex couple or individual questioning how & where we can discover our own happily-ever-after.
— Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman, Actor and LGBTQ activist (Unreal, Love by the 10th Date)
A smart, thorough, no-judgements guide book to the discussions every gay couple should have (but rarely do) before they even think about ring shopping.
— Michael Bastian, designer
Growing up as the only gay individual in my family (that I know of), it was and still is very easy to fall into a heteronormative sense of self. What Michael illustrates and analyzes so beautifully and meticulously in this book is the beauty and complexity of being different in an institutionalized, heterosexualized world. I only wish this book had come out when I was a young adult to help guide me through some of my past relationships. Being gay is unique and special. And the wealth of experience and knowledge from evident years of practice and research that pours from this book is just that: unique. A definite must read for any man navigating the tricky waters of loving another man. The takeaway for me? There is no one way to do anything. And never be ashamed or afraid to ask for what you want out of love. Because you deserve it.
— Matthew Risch, actor, writer
I’m grateful to be part of the first LGBT generation that reached adulthood knowing gay marriage was a reality. But now what? In this book, Michael Dale Kimmel has provided us with a nuanced look at the question we face next in our evolution: What can our marriages become now that we have them? I recommend this read for any man who’s ever dreamt of saying ‘I do’ to the one they love.
— Michael J. Willett, actor, G.B.F. and Faking It