Perfectionism: The Endless Report Card
photo courtesy of Italian Vogue Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not [...]
Lift Others as You Climb
photo by Alexandra Gavillet for nymag.com Advertising urges us to see aging as a failure. This is where role models and mentoring come [...]
Oliver Sacks, openly gay genius, Tom of Finland lookalike, dies
I didn't know that renowned writer and neuroscientist Oliver Sacks was gay until I read his obituary today. I read that he came out in [...]
Reinventing Marriage
Now, no matter what state we live in, move to or visit, our same-sex marriages are legal. Hooray! This has been a long time coming. [...]
Do I have enough?
photo courtesy of Sony Pictures Classics As a psychotherapist, over the years’ I’ve heard many people say that they don’t have enough of [...]
Is American Life Really All About Power and Money?
The current New Yorker features an article analyzing the work and career of Joan Didion, a writer whose work and life I admire: a writer who [...]
Dominique Browning: “I’m too old for this”
Photo by Brigitte Lacombe for House & Garden magazine This is a great article by one of my favorite writers. In The New [...]
Why is it so Hard to Change?
As a psychotherapist, clients often ask me: “Why is it so hard to change?” We know what we want, we know who we want to [...]
Healthy Boundaries
Comedian/actor/producer Chris Rock: a successful, courageous man with very healthy boundaries If you listen to any kind of psychological advice show – from [...]
Volunteering and Your Mental Health
When I lived in Los Angeles, I used to volunteer for my church. On many Sunday afternoons, I would join a group of men and [...]
Cheaters
Dear Michael: I never thought it would happen to me, but here I am, in a relationship with a cheater. I didn’t know he was [...]
The Best Way To End A Relationship
Dear Michael: I am in the process of divorcing my husband of 4 years. I can’t believe I was with him that long, he has [...]