The Joys – and sorrows – of dating Apps
I am the first to admit that I have used dating apps: I even met one of my boyfriends on one (no, I’m not telling [...]
Fat? Old? Ugly?
photo courtesy of vogue.paris I was inspired to write this column after seeing an ad in an LGBT Periodical (not from San Diego). [...]
Beneath Anger, There Is Always Sadness
photo by Dan Roberts for nymag.com In 1995, when I was a Middle School Counselor in San Francisco, I was asked to facilitate [...]
My mom died, how’s your day going?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=66&v=lJJT00wqlOo This song - and the accompanying video - is so beautiful. Sufjan Stevens (a favorite of mine) writes/sings his feelings about his mother’s life [...]
The Amazing Lena Dunham talks about Marriage
"Recently, I found a drawing from tenth grade, an anime-inspired rendering of someone meant to be the adult me wearing a shredded lace gown [...]
How to Get Along with Difficult People
photo courtesy of youngjun coo for nymag.com No matter how wonderful your life is, its impossible to avoid difficult people. These unpleasant folks [...]
Ten men talk about bathing suits and body angst
You seldom read about men and how we feel about our bodies in bathing suits. Until now. Click below for a link to a great [...]
How Sex and Love Changes (from our Teens to Retirement)
photo by Youngjun Koo for nymag.com In this column, I would like to try and summarize how sex and love changes as we [...]
Do you Feel Invisible?
What does it mean to be invisible? No one sees you. As a therapist, I hear lots of men and woman over 40 tell me [...]
Time for a Retreat?
When times get tough, what’s one of the best things you can do for yourself? Perhaps it’s time for a retreat. You may protest, saying [...]
What do you think of This Kind of Sex?
photo by Landon Norderman for nymag.com Dear Michael, Last week a friend of mine invited me to go with him to a sex [...]
Coming Out Is Mental Health
Dear Michael: I’ve been married for 5 years and it’s a sham. I want to come out, but, I’m scared to death that everyone I [...]