January is Divorce Month
I didn’t make this up. I was reading a professional journal and this was mentioned in an article on counseling couples. They didn’t explain why, [...]
The Three Year Itch
“I’m so bored with him.” “The excitement’s gone”. “She’s so predictable; I know exactly what she’ll do.” Sound familiar? These statements are typical of how some [...]
A Numb New Year?
photo courtesy of gayguys.com Why do we numb ourselves? What is it we don’t want to feel? Is it so bad to “take [...]
Your own worst enemy
Are you a jealous person? What makes you jealous? Jealousy is a form of self-sabotage. It rarely helps you get what you want. Jealousy usually [...]
“I Hate the Holidays”
A recent email I got sums up many people’s attitude towards this time of year: Dear Doctor Kimmel: I hate the Holidays! People are so [...]
Psychological Santa to the Rescue!
For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded [...]
How to Escape the Trap of Perfectionism
Do you feel like you’re always judging/critiquing/ evaluating yourself? Are you afraid to do something you may not be good at? Are you afraid to [...]
Psychological Santa to the Rescue!
For lots of people, December is the month from hell: this time of year often brings crazy-scary sets of expectations and dread. We are bombarded [...]
All I want for Christmas is the Perfect Relationship
As Christmas nears, many of my single clients want Santa to bring them the perfect relationship and leave it under the tree (nicely-wrapped, of course). [...]
Sigmund goes to Palm Springs
For many of us LGBT San Diegans, winter and spring are the perfect times to go to Palm Springs: the weather is great and it's [...]
12 Steps for the Rest of Us
While I am not a member of a 12 step program, I find the 12 steps are useful for anyone struggling with an addictiion. In [...]
The Trans Community and Me
photo of Janet Mock courtesy of salon.com For several years, people have asked me to write a column about the transgender (aka "trans") [...]