I think I’m bisexual…
Dear Michael: I am a happily-married woman with a young child, a great job and loving friends. There’s only one problem, I think I’m bisexual, [...]
Finding your perfect partner
We all have this idea of the “perfect” partner, and many of us feel disappointed and even annoyed when we don’t get him or her. [...]
How to Handle Conversations with Difficult People
photograph courtesy of Columbia Motion Pictures Dear Michael: I write to you because you are becoming the “Dear Abby” of San Diego! I [...]
The ABCs of Couples Counseling
photo courtesy of nymag.com Over the years, many people have asked me a lot of questions about couples counseling. For this column, I’ve [...]
The Well of Loneliness
photo by Peter Lindberg for nymag.com As a young gay boy in small-town Ohio, I read “The Well of Loneliness”, one of [...]
Why I Like Getting Older
photo courtesy of nymag.com If you believe advertising, getting older is a mistake, a weakness. If you get older and look older, you’ve [...]
How to have a low stress life
Today I got a call from a new client, who asked me, “Can you help me lower my stress and anxiety? I don’t want to [...]
What is “Love” Anyway?
I love working with couples: they come to me, wanting to improve their communications, work out problems between them and deepen their love. In couples’ [...]
The Anatomy of an Affair
photo courtesy of nymag.com How do affairs happen? Typically, in my psychotherapy office, when I work with a couple that is struggling with [...]
Not Out to Your Doctor?
As an openly-gay mental health professional, I have long assumed that most LGBT folks are out to their health providers. Wrong! Recently, I was asked [...]
Burned out at work?
I see a lot of clients who have problems with their jobs. They tell me they feel burned out at work. I define this kind [...]
Top/Bottom/Versatile
I was recently at a party where I was asked, “As a therapist, can you tell me why there are so many more bottoms than [...]