The Art of Loving
Some subjects are timeless, like love. Many self-help gurus say stuff like, “You can’t love anyone else if you don’t love yourself.” Sounds good, but, [...]
The new PTSD: President Trump Stress Disorder
Traditionally, PTSD has stood for “post traumatic stress disorder”. It describes how we may have to tough it out to get through something traumatic (war, [...]
The Pros and Cons of Older/Younger Relationships
Matteo Prandoni for nymag.com In my psychotherapy practice, I often assist lesbian couples where one of the women is significantly older than her [...]
The Psychology of being Sick
Does this sound familiar? You don’t feel well. Sure enough you’ve got a cold/the flu and your body feels like crap. You’re sick. Your mental [...]
Practical Spirituality
photo courtesy of Screen Gems Films I don’t consider myself religious, but I do consider myself to be on a spiritual path. I [...]
The Best Gift of All
My goddaughter Natalie and her parents, my friends Larry and Charlotte Fatigued from an overload of shopping, spending, and travel? You’re not alone. [...]
What I learned on my Book Tour
I’ve just finished six months as an openly gay author out there in the - overwhelmingly straight - publishing world talking about my book: “The [...]
Talking with the Enemy
I was hiking with a friend at Torrey Pines and we stopped to take in the view. A fellow hiker stopped near us and a [...]
“It’s Just One Big, Ambiguous Mess”
My book “The Gay Man’s Guide to Open and Monogamous Marriage” came out in June. Ever since, I have been getting new clients whose relationships [...]
Body Shame? You’re Not Alone
My queer clients have it; my straight male clients have it; my older (and you’d hope wiser) clients have it. Even I have it. A [...]
The Tao of Travel
For seven years I read the book “365 Tao” and did the daily meditations. Taoism – an ancient Eastern philosophy – emphasizes compassion, spontaneity and [...]
3 kinds of depression (and what to do about them)
“Depression” is used to describe everything from feeling a bit down to feeling suicidal. I’d like to talk about three kinds of “depression” and what [...]