It’s Not the Alcohol; it’s You
Dear Michael: I have been with my partner for several years’ now. Our sex life isn’t great, but everything else is good. Last week, I [...]
Becoming More Resilient
Photo of Vanessa Redgrave courtesy of nymag.com The same bad thing can happen to two people: one gets really down and depressed for [...]
Happy POP! (Post-Orlando Pride)
photo by Landon Nordeman for nymag.com In this confusing time, after Orlando and before San Diego Pride, what do we stand for? As [...]
How to Grieve
As the tragedy in Orlando continues to unfold, I find myself asking: How do you grieve for someone you don’t know? How do you [...]
Does God Hate Me?
photo by Kevin Tachman for mymag.com Dear Michael: I am a 27-year-old gay man who only recently came out. I was married for a [...]
What is Internalized Homophobia and what can I do about it?
photo by Kevin Tuchman The other day I was talking with a client, a well-adjusted gay man, who told me, “I don’t think [...]
Go to the Mirror
Photo of Ariana Grande, courtesy of snapchat Mirror work is something I first tried about 30 years’ ago. I went to a workshop [...]
How to Be Popular
photo courtesy of nymag.com There are hundreds of books and videos on how to be popular. In this column, I’d like to talk [...]
Time for a Social Media Vacay?
Photo by Erik Madigan Heck for nymag.com First it was my 19-year-old goddaughter. Then my 30-year-old niece. Now it’s my 45-year-old male client. [...]
The Untethered Soul
photo courtesy of nymag.com Have you ever wondered: How can I become less reactive and impulsive? How can I turn down the noisy [...]
How to Handle Disappointment
photo of Erykah Badu courtesy of nymag.com What do you do when you are disappointed? How do you handle it? That’s what this [...]
Real Change
Whenever I meet with a new client, I usually hear some version of: how can I make my life better? How can I make real [...]