What’s on your back burner?
Some of us are used to living in an ongoing state of crisis; we don’t know what it’s like to have a calm, peaceful life. [...]
You Can Fix Your Childhood
Most of us think that the bad stuff that happened to us when we were kids is hardwired into our brains. We try to change [...]
“Why am I still alone?”
Dear Michael: I read you all the time in Gay San Diego and I usually like what you have to say, so I decided to ask [...]
Halloween Every Day
Now that Halloween is over, have you ever wondered why people like it so much? We get to dress up in costumes. We get [...]
Friendship and Romance
How do you grow a friendship? How do you encourage a brand-new romance? Are the basic underlying principles the same for both, or not? Some [...]
Molecular Reorganization
In college, I avoided science courses as much as possible. They seemed so hard and not very relevant to my goal of becoming a psychotherapist. [...]
Lower the Wall
So many of us feel lonely: we spend countless hours on Instagram or other social media trying to feel connected, like we matter to someone. [...]
I want to be wild!
A few weeks’ ago, a well-adjusted bisexual guy came into my office. He was handsome, smart, successful and quite happy with his life. So, I [...]
You are the Cake
If you’re single: do you ever feel lonely and wish that someone wonderful would love you? If you’re coupled: do you ever feel lonely and [...]
The Marvels of Midlife
When I was 20, I thought that my sex life would be over at 40. When I was 30, I thought that my best years [...]
Look for the Helpers
This is not the column I had planned to write. But, this week I’ve been very inspired by two experiences: The terrific LGBT Exhibit at [...]
Pride 2018: “A moment of great urgency”
Recently, speaking here in Southern California, former President Obama said, "This is a moment of great urgency. You are right to be concerned. The progress [...]