When a friend dies
photo courtesy of nymag.com Dear Michael: We love your column in the San Diego paper. That's why I am writing to you. [...]
Blame, revenge and forgiveness
Dear Michael: I feel like such an idiot. I allowed myself to fall in love with this guy who really wasn’t that interested in me. I thought [...]
The New Middle Age
Susan Sarandon on the cover of "V" Magazine Middle Age. Over the Hill. Past your Prime. Do these phrases inspire you to live [...]
HDRs: High Drama Relationships
You’ve probably heard some people describe their relationships as “high drama”. I Googled “drama” and found some interesting definitions: (1) a crisis, spectacle, thrill, sensation or [...]
Codependence: When friendship goes bad
Dear Michael, For several years I was friends with someone. He ended it abruptly and refuses to talk to me. It’s no problem with me [...]
Why Can’t I Sleep?
So many of my clients (and friends) complain about poor sleep or lack of sleep. Why do so many of us not sleep long, well and [...]
Making major life changes
Dear Michael: I am a 19-year-old, newly-out lesbian who is moving to NYC for college, and I am scared shitless. I?ve lived in SD all [...]
Reinventing marriage: monogamy or open-relationship?
photo by I AM KOO for nymag.com Now that we can get married: do we want to? For many of us, the real [...]
Porn Detox
photo courtesy of Cin2 underwear To detox is to eliminate poisons from our system. Too much “junk sex”, like too much junk food, [...]
How Can I Feel Less Stressed Out All The Time?
Dear Michael: I feel so stressed out much of the time. I guess I am a “type A” person. My previous job was stressful, so I got [...]
What Is Therapy And Why Would I Want It?
When I was a kid in small-town Ohio, my grandma told me, “Only crazy people get therapy. Don’t be crazy.” End of advice. This is [...]
Fighting Fair
Sometimes I wonder: Why do we fight, argue or disagree? We want our way. We want to be right. We want to get something. Are [...]