Strategies for the Long Haul: Coping with Loneliness, “Touch Hunger” & Other Challenges
We don’t know how long the pandemic will last, how long we’ll need to practice social distancing or how long we’re likely to be working [...]
Strengthen Your Immune System
In the past few days, I’ve been getting a lot of texts and phone calls from clients who are worried about the Coronavirus (COVID-19) and [...]
Power, Love & Presence
As young people, most of us start off feeling pretty powerful. We have the confidence, naiveté and energy of our twenties and are excited about [...]
Your Sex Life Can Get Better with Age: Here’s How
There is a myth that the older we are, the worse our sex life will be. Fortunately, this is bullshit. I have seen many clients [...]
Why I Love Cowboys
I love cowboys because they: are steady and sweet, keep their cards close to their chests, only open up when they know you’re trustworthy, are solid and low-key [...]
Why is Everyone So Anxious?
Have you noticed how anxious, worried and edgy most people are lately? Have you experienced these feelings yourself? If so, you can relax: you’re “normal” [...]
How Much Sex Should I Be Having?
I’ve been a psychotherapist for about twenty years; before that I was a middle school counselor in San Francisco, preschool teacher in the Bronx, social [...]
Have More Love
It’s a new year. Most of us want some things to change. We’d like more money, a better job, our partner to drop their annoying [...]
Surprise! I was Wrong.
When I wrote the initial proposal for my book, it was called “The Queer Person’s Guide to Love, Monogamy and Open Relationships” and it addressed [...]
This year: Do It Differently
Are you a “Happy Holidays!” or “Bah, Humbug!” person? For many of us, the holidays bring crazy-making expectations. We’re bombarded with media images encouraging us [...]
How to Balance your Heart, Mind and Genitals
Romance. Sex. Intimacy. Hooking up. Hanging out. Do I have your attention? As men-who-love-men, we want all things from all men. We want hot sex, [...]
How to Feel Less Anxious
It’s pretty easy to feel anxious these days, especially with climate change, attacks on LGBTQ rights and a government led by someone as mentally unstable [...]